Anointed Anniversaries 10.9.17

“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

When Ben and my 5-year Anniversary rolled around this past Friday, it gave me an opportunity to reflect. I thought back on all the wonderful memories we’ve made and the journeys we’ve been on. But I also thought about what it means to have a Anniversary.

We often celebrate with gifts from an array of designated materials, fancy dinners, or romantic getaways. We crave the Pinterest-worthy photoshoot and assume that if we do not meet some social-media standard, that our love must be lost or boring. And still we miss the deeper meaning behind our celebrations. So what should we think when we think about our anniversaries? How do we recognize these milestones as couples who have entered a marriage covenant with their Heavenly Father?

In the book,Treasuring God in Our Traditions, Noël Piper names God as the inventor of tradition. In Exodus 12:42, for example, God wants his people to remember all his works, to honor him for what he’s done, and to tell their children and grandchildren what they have witnessed. That particular scene is about the Passover, but how can we apply the same principles to our wedding anniversaries?

1. Wedding anniversaries are about remembering our vows before God.
Pull your vows out from the scrapbook and rehearse them again. Review them one by one with each other, discuss how to remain faithful, and pray for each other. Read them aloud together and pray that God will continue to work these in you. Ephesians 5:22–23 speaks so clearly and powerfully about marriage. Read and pray this section together, and ask God to make it true for each of you.

Look to your wedding party, who vowed to labor alongside your marriage in the gospel, for encouragement and guidance. Check in with the pastor who married you. Laugh and reminisce about the day, and look at pictures that highlight the joy of being made one by God, before God, and for God.

2. Anniversaries are about honoring God for what he’s done.
As you celebrate, remember the gospel of Jesus Christ that ripped you from eternal destruction, into everlasting life (John 5:24). Look past those petty annoyances like how your spouse chews his food, drives, or cleans (or doesn’t clean) the house. See them as your brother or sister in Christ and remember that he or she has received the same Spirit and the same grace. And remember that God put up, in love, with far more from you, and then suffered for all your sin against him.

Meditate on the past year and how God brought the two of you through. Pray that you will love each other as Christ has loved you. Memorize the glorious and grace-filled vision of love in 1 Corinthians 13 this year. Plead with God day by day for the grace you need in this gospel-portraying partnership.

3. Anniversaries are about telling others about God.
What greater, and more difficult, privilege is there than to present the gospel in the union of marriage? God himself ordained marriage to display the most important relationship of Christ, the bridegroom, with his bride, the church (Ephesians 5:22–33; Revelation 19). Use your anniversary to share the gospel with the world (Ephesians 6:19; John 13:35). Share it in the caption under your anniversary Instagram (1 Corinthians 9:16). Share it in your perfunctory annual anniversary Facebook status update (2 Corinthians 5:20).

On your next wedding anniversary, refuse to get lost in finding the perfect gifts or planning expensive honeymoon do-overs. By all means, buy your spouse a gift or go on a trip with them. But remember that God is the Creator of tradition and made it to help us find him.

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