Kali and Carley have this whole friendship thing figured out. They both have lots in common but are completely different in their own way. Regardless of each other’s similarities and differences, they have remained best friends for 25 years. We are thrilled to have them write in and share their knowledge on a loving friendship.
– The Women of The Well
Some people aren’t lucky enough to have a best friend since they were 4 years old, but we can say 25 years later, it happened to us. We laugh at the same stupid things that no one else would find funny. We can give each other a look and know exactly what the other is thinking. We’ve proven to be there for each other time and time again without hesitation.
We have been through so many milestones together in our lives. We went through the fun times of sleepovers, the butterfly hair clips, awkward years of middle school, and now we are starting our own families by each other’s sides. We share a special bond with each other that no one else could understand. We’ve loved each other through the good times and bad times.
We have so much in common that it comes easy to find things to talk about and do together. We share a passion for teaching, crafting, and baking brownies. We have no problem going shopping all day long and taking a trip to Sonic at the drop of a hat. Although some would disagree, we are not the same people and we’ve always liked different things. Kali was into student council, Carley was into soccer. We had different interests but we supported each other in those activities and made efforts to be there for each other.
Our friendship takes work just like any relationship does. Here are some things we have learned:
- Make time.
Put in time for each other. We talk daily and see each other sometimes multiple times a week.
- Appreciate your differences.
We don’t argue much because we have an appreciation for each other’s opinions and beliefs and know it’s okay to disagree.
- Be intentional.
Set goals to make contact weekly. Show interest in each other’s lives. Make sacrifices for one another. Take joy in the other’s successes.
Personally, we’ve each been through tough times and know we are there for each other to fall back on or cry to when needed. Not everyone has had the same friend since they were little but we encourage you to find someone who makes your life better by just being in it.
Be honest with yourself and surround yourself with people who lift you up and make you better. You only deserve the best in your life, surround yourself with positive and encouraging friends.
Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest … It’s about who came, and never left your side.