6 months pregnant and the bump is in full force! For the most part, my pregnancy has been pretty smooth. First trimester, I was sick but not super sick. I had to go to the E.R. once because I caught a violent 24-hour bug that was pretty scary! But other than that — it’s been smooth sailing. I’ve had some cravings but nothing crazy. Just random things like Sonic corn-dogs, lots of sushi and 7-Eleven slurpees!
I do have to say, I don’t think anyone can prepare or fully understand pregnancy until you experience it for yourself. It’s just weird. The emotions that come with being pregnant can be a little overwhelming and sometimes I feel like I’m just losing it! I’m an emotional person already but the feelings I’ve had these past 6-months are borderline cray-cray.
Here are something things I wish I would have known before becoming pregnant:
1. It takes time for your husband to jump on board.
The first time I heard her heartbeat, I had no words. I couldn’t stop listening to the recording, I felt like it was the most amazing thing I had ever heard. Which is a weird feeling in it’s self because I had no idea I would feel the way I do about my baby’s little heart beat. I was overwhelmed with joy. When I asked Jermelle what he thought, he replied with, “It was cool.” WHAT?! I couldn’t believe he didn’t have the feelings I was having. It’s your daughter too, you know! When she started kicking, I thought my world had stopped! He wasn’t as amused. But over the last month, he’s turned a corner. Once the belly popped, things got real. He talks to her, constantly rubs my belly and will not miss one doctor’s appointment! It just takes time for men to process all that’s going on and what’s about to go down.
2. Life continues even when you feel like it’s paused.
After finding out we were pregnant, I felt like my world had been put on pause. The things I cared about before moved to the side and all I want to talk about is this little growing human inside me. What did I even think about before I was having a baby? Oh no, I am turning into one of “those” moms! But — life does continue and has a tendency to throw huge curve balls when you’re just trying to survive. Within the past 6-months, we became pregnant, started our own business and our house completely flooded. In the midst of being the most tired I have ever felt in my life, I have to be very intentional with my time. Even though I feel like life has been put on pause and everything revolves around the baby — it doesn’t. It’s so hard to focus on other things when you’re pregnant. Finding a balance has been hard but life forces you to figure it out.
(Our house is getting new floors, baseboards, cabinets, kitchen island and paint. We are currently in a rental. Pray we are back in our house before Ria Grace makes her arrival!)
3. You think you want a bump.
For the first 5 months, I wanted a bump so bad. Since I’m so tall, it has taken me longer than others to look even somewhat pregnant. It was frustrating because I felt like I was fighting the nausea, tiredness and cramping and no evidence of all my hard work! Well, in the last few weeks the bump is on and poppin’. Along with everything that comes with a bump. Hip pain, ligament cramping, lower back aches and itchy skin. I’ve started physical therapy for my sciatica nerve pain because I could barely walk at times! Lesson learned. I love my bump but I think next go around, I’ll enjoy the few months of bump-less pregnancy a little more.
4. The love is a little overwhelming.
I had no idea I had the capability to be so in love with someone who I have never met! I think about her constantly and it doesn’t bother me that she doesn’t feel the same way about me. I am learning that unconditional love comes with so many different emotions. Worry and anxiety are just a couple. Every little cramp and stomach pain (which you have a lot of!) has the capability to throw me into a whirlwind of crazy thoughts and emotions. I have to stop worrying about the things that are out of my control. Taking every thought captive and trusting that everything is going to workout. Because it always does.
I am honored and over-the-top excited to be Ria Grace’s mama. If there’s anything you learned during pregnancy or wish you had known, please share! We want to hear from you!